Screaming NO.

Have you ever said 'yes' when every cell, every bone, and every fibre of your being was screaming 'NO'?

Why do we do it?

Why do we struggle to voice our truth?"

But before we can communicate and express our beliefs, thoughts and feelings, we need to be aware of what they are. They form the foundation of who we are and guides how we interact with the world within and the world without.

It is from these foundations that we build shape and grow our relationships not just with others but with ourselves too.

This can then assist us to  

·       have clarity to make decisions that align with who we are

·       act with authenticity

·       understand and accept ourselves for who we are

·       attract like-minded individuals.in our personal and business life

·       grow our resilience and confidence to face challenges and barriers

·       avoid conflicting situations which do not align with our true self and can lead to dissatisfaction or burnout.

·       Question outdated and limiting beliefs,

·       Transform leaned behaviours which do not align with our truth

·       embrace new perspectives,

·       And of course, to Celebrate Our Life Our Way, which is my mission.

To assist you to dig deep and Discover You and empower you to be Confidently You.

Discover You

No matter your age, gender, size, income or geographical location, you deserve to live the life you were born to life.

I will discuss the importance of effectively expressing yourself, both verbally and non-verbally in another blog in the next few days as this is a whole topic on its own.

So, what is the benefit to us of saying yes when our body is screaming NO?"

Surely there can’t be one, can there?

I’m guessing you have a past scenario racing through your mind now arguing against this, and that is ok.  

In certain circumstances, saying yes can offer benefits, though it's important to evaluate when this compromise is genuinely worthwhile. And only you can decide that.

Here are a few examples I have listed which may help you.

·       Saying "yes" can show willingness to collaborate, compromise, or support others

·       New experiences might challenge our perspective and help us discover untapped strengths or interests.

·       It can be a calculated move to achieve a long-term goal, such as advancing in our career or fostering opportunities.

·       It may diffuse tension or prevent unnecessary arguments in situations where the stakes are low, saving energy for more critical matters. This is one where I have compromised and invested my energies elsewhere.

·       Saying yes can deepen our understanding of someone else’s viewpoint or help us accommodate their needs, leading to stronger mutual respect.

Please be aware that frequent compromises can lead to burnout, resentment, or a loss of authenticity.

It's important to balance these moments with assertiveness and ensure you align your actions with your core values.

Remember. Your voice is your power.  Take the time to understand it, trust it, and use it to shape a life that reflects who you truly are.

I found me, I discovered many of the beliefs that had weighed me down keeping me stuck, were not mine.

Some went back to my great grandparents and possibly many generations back. They might have been relevant in 1891 but not now.

So, I dug them out and sent them out into the universe to be dissolved into the ether.

This made space for new beliefs.

My beliefs.

Beliefs for 2025.

Beliefs that aligned with me. And by eck what a difference it has made to my life.

The deadwood has been pruned and gone

My boundaries have been cleaned up and strengthened.

My confidence is soaring

My health has improved.

The challenges I currently face in caring for both my parents would have made me run for the hills 2 years ago. Now I take it in my stride and I feel comfortable in seeking the correct support for them and me

My business is busy than ever and I look forward to the gift of working with you each and every business day.

I have more time for me by prioritising what is important to me.

The list goes on.

But for now, my beautiful souls, I gift you the freedom to make your own choice of how you wish to write the rest of your life.

A)   Is it to discover you, and transform your life to one of authenticity truth and joy?

B)   Is it to continue as you are and hope things improve one day?

C)  Is it to scroll on down to the next post in ignorant bliss that there is no point doing anything.

D)  Not sure, slightly curious but scared of what might happen?

Whatever you choose that’s ok. I’m not forcing you or telling you what to do. I had 50+ years of being told what to do.

However, if you want to be in the A team, come and have a confidential Discovery Chat with me, with no obligation. Even if it is just to discuss more about my journey.

Andi Barker

EFTi Accredited Certified Advanced EFT Practitioner

Usui and Kundalini Reiki Master Practitioner

Natural Wellbeing and Confident Creative Communicator  

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